Comments on: How to Show Someone You Love Them

By: Lowell

Lowell — Tue, 12 Feb 2008 19:26:18 +0000

forgot something else
i meant to say she asked me i i would wait for her.

By: Lowell

Lowell — Tue, 12 Feb 2008 19:22:44 +0000

Well i’m 17 i’ve been going out with this girl for about a year in a half, she’s 15 gonna be 16 and i got deep feelings for her and she feels the same we broke up a couple of times but we always end up getting back together.i don’t know if i’m in love or not. and if i am i’m to scared to tell she is to..she is always talking bout me and her future and what am i gonna do after i graduate i told her i’d wait for her what should i do..

By: Mike

Mike — Thu, 07 Feb 2008 17:16:44 +0000

Kristan, it’s never fun to lose a friend to something like this. Unfortunately, you don’t really say why the two of you broke up and why he stopped talking to you. Part of it, no doubt, is age - at 16, some guys are not too sure what they want… except for the obvious.
Ultimately, you need to remember that every relationship takes two - and if he’s not willing to even talk to you, there’s not a lot you can do to fix it except let some time pass.
I wouldn’t recommend dating his brother or his cousins, though. If you’re ready to date someone else, make it someone outside his circle - especially his family.

By: Kristan

Kristan — Tue, 05 Feb 2008 19:26:40 +0000

Okay well i’m 16 and i was dating this guy for 3 months. we broke up a few weeks ago but even before we even started dating we were really good friends. and we were best friends through out our relationship, well when we broke up he completely quit talking to me even after he said that we’d be best friends for like and nothing would come in between us. well last week i found out that his little brother and both of his close cousins like me. i’m starting to wonder if they might have said something to get him to turn against me because i know that he would believe his family over me even though i had never lied to him or hurt him. i loved him so much and he just like took my heart out of my chest and cut it in to tiny pieces.. Can you help me figure out what i should do?

By: Mike

Mike — Tue, 15 Jan 2008 20:17:02 +0000

Anonymous, I don’t know what state you’re in, but it’s a pretty safe bet to say that your coach would get in a whole lot of trouble having an affair with a 16-year-old boy in his charge. At the least, he’d lose his job, and at the worst, he could end up in prison.
That’s assuming he has feelings for you.
Understand that your feelings for your coach, whatever they might be, are at the moment secondary to figuring out who you are and figuring out how to live your life as you are. I have no specific advice for you except that you’re not the first person to face this problem, and those who have faced it before you will no doubt have a truckload of good advice for you.
Do yourself and your coach a favor, though. Forget him for at least two years, until you deal with all the issues you’ve got ahead of you. You don’t want to be outed in a courtroom, and neither would he.
EDIT: I have been told that these folks may be able to help you: http://www.thetrevorproject.org/

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Tue, 15 Jan 2008 00:01:32 +0000

I am 16 and have been in love with someone for about 2 and a half years now. The only problem is that he is my coach, and I am a boy. I knew right from the very time that I met him that there was something special about him; something that I still don’t think I’ll ever be able to find again. Ever since then I’ve loved him very much. I’ve seen him almost every day since then and we’ve become good friends. My love for him has only gotten stronger each day, but recently I’ve been thinking a lot about how we can’t be together, and it just hurts so much. I’d do anything for a just a chance to be with him, to hold him, to spend one night with him. I know that it can’t happen. At the same time, I feel as though in a way, he loves me like a son… We’re very close but it’s not like he knows I’m bi or that I love him the way I do. I sort of want to tell him that I love him, but not in a way that makes him feel uncomfortable or weird around me. I cherish our friendship and I don’t want it to be ruined over this. I just can’t take it anymore. I need him so bad. I know what I’m saying is jumbled… but can you help me? Anything will be helpful.

By: Mike

Mike — Tue, 08 Jan 2008 17:09:06 +0000

Heather, imagine yourself single and dating. You meet a new guy, one who seems to be everything you’d look for. Then you find out two things about him: 1. He’s got a girlfriend already, who he is reluctant to leave for someone else, and 2. he repeatedly beats his girlfriends even after jail time and counseling.
Would you allow this man into your home, to be near your child? Of course not. So why would you do it for your ex?
Your ex is a walking red flag, and you should count yourself lucky that he doesn’t want to be with you.
It sounds like you might need counseling to address why you you feel your family is not complete without this abusive, disinterested man you once had a relationship with, instead of someone who treats your and your son with love and respect.

By: Heather

Heather — Mon, 07 Jan 2008 21:53:16 +0000

I am 23. When I was 19 away at school I met a man… who I fell head over heals in love with. We were the best of friends and enjoyed spending every moment we could together. The thing was I was a student and he worked there so it was not allowed. So he quit his job and moved away to build a home for us for me to come to when I graduated. And he did that and about a year after we first met I moved there. Things were great for awhile. Then he lost his greatgrandmother. And a few days later he hit me. I took it as it was just built up anger in trying to deal with his loss. But then it happened again and again. For two years I delt with it. I became pregnant with our son and had alot of complications due to the stress I was under. I almost lost him 3 times. The doctors told my boyfriend I could not have sex it would cause me to go into labor too soon. But he still insisted. When I was 8 1/2 months prego he choked me and I called the cops I had had all I could take. He went to jail and had to have treatment. When our son was born I went back. Tried to make things work but he choked me 2 more times so I left. Its been a year now and I believe we have both made alot of changes. I want so badly for our family to be together and he says he does but he has a girlfriend that he says has been “so good to him” and he dont want to make the wrong choice. I am not sure what to do. I have waited for 10 months now for him to make a decision. And I feel like I have waited long enough but he says I am pressuring him. What do I do?

By: ryan

ryan — Sat, 06 Oct 2007 10:52:49 +0000

please please write back im on the edge all my freinds beleive it nd now i have none, the roumers not true and i dont know y they all beleive it cuz its not like me at all, im moving school because of it but please write back asap

By: ryan

ryan — Wed, 03 Oct 2007 15:45:32 +0000

thanks 4 answering but maeve broke up with me the day after i posted my comment she told me be4 that it was just her feelings changed bt that was a lie she did it because someone started a roumor that i told him that we did dirty stuff that we diddint, nd i swear on anything that i didnt bt she beleived him over me. i know who it was now, im heart broken nd i have no idea what to do and im not going to settle for just finding someone else please help